I use my vibrator every day & don’t care who knows, it’s time women put their pleasure first

LESLEY Cragg, 38, has been single since November 2019. Yet even during each lockdown she was still able to satisfy herself.

Lesley, mum to Charlie, 17, reckons all women – single and attached – should take charge of their own pleasure.


“I'm single and lockdown was initially a bit of a nightmare," she says.

“But I was able to turn a negative into a positive. The whole experience of being home alone was a turning point regarding masturbation and my relationship with my body.

“Because if I couldn't pleasure myself – then who could?

“I felt empowered learning how to regularly climax with the use of a vibrator and taking back control over this important part of my life.”

Lesley, who lives in Warrington, is on a mission. She says she feels energised when using a sex toy and claims, not only does it help with her anxiety and confidence, but it has improved her overall wellbeing.

“I should say I’m not a mad sex person! But I’m happy to say I use one regularly," she reveals.

“That's why I want women like me to be able to take control and be in charge of our own pleasure.

“The last 18 months have been tough on us all – especially for those of us who are single.

“My mantra is that you don’t need a man to climax.”

Lesley says her eyes were opened when she discovered the range of vibrators on the market.

“Yes there are the classic internal ones – but there are also external models too. We’ve come a long way from the basic bullet style vibrator and the rampant rabbits," Lesley explains.

“In my 20s and early 30s whenever anyone mentioned a vibrator like most women I thought they were horrible.”

An orgasm is the best way to release my anxiety

The turning point for Lesley to talk out about how all women should be using sex toys came when she recognised the positive impact they have on her mental health.

“It sounds crazy but it’s true. If I’ve been working in full on mode then like most of us I need a way of calming down," she says.

“At the end of a stressful day I can remain anxious. An orgasm is the best way to release my anxiety.

“When those feel good hormones start pumping around my body as a result of such pleasure – I'm in a much better frame of mind.

“That's why when I want to relax and unwind, I prefer to reach for my vibrator than a large glass of wine.

“I see climaxing as a form of mindfulness. It means I'm focussed on me and only myself in that moment. My motto is that an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!”

Lesley was in a ten year relationship before she and her partner split last year.

She confesses that sex hadn’t been great for a long time: “I’m all about intimacy and you can’t replace the real thing when you are in a loving relationship.

“But there were times when I found it difficult to climax with my partner.

“I’d often get some relief by doing it on my own with a tiny bullet vibrator I had back then, but it took a long time to climax. It wasn’t the same sensation as the toys I now use – nowadays it happens super quickly.

“The feeling you get when you can do it yourself is indescribable.

“I prefer to take care of my own pleasure and it’s why I definitely don’t feel bad about pleasuring myself. Women all over the world should feel the same way too.

“There are so many different types of vibrators out there that I believe there is one for everyone: internal and yes external ones too. It's not just rampant rabbits anymore!”

The feeling you get when you can do it yourself is indescribable

Lesley’s daughter Charlie works for her mum as an apprentice. It's why talk in the office – and at home – is about sex toys and pleasure.

“It’s important for me – and her – that she understands how to pleasure herself and that she doesn't need a man to do so," Lesley insists.

“I'm determined that women of all ages should know about sex toys and that it shouldn’t be a taboo subject.

“Masturbation has changed during lockdown. Female masturbation shouldn't be a term talked about only when we're tipsy out with the girls or restricted to hen nights."

Three years ago e-commerce expert Lesley, heard about a viral review of "Tracy’s dog suction vibrator".

“When I read the online reactions of women who had tried it – I knew this would be the next big thing. They said things such as they’d experienced heaven or saw gold," she says.

“I tried it and I had no idea of the benefit or power that I would experience. The climax was quick! It was like being in a posh racing car and going from 0-60 seconds in record time!

Female masturbation shouldn't be a term talked about only when we're tipsy out with the girls

“So I contacted the manufacturers and persuaded them to let me sell their products.

“I now sell a range of sex toys and while I don't test them all I do have a team who enjoy doing the testing for me! The feedback from clients is overwhelmingly positive.

“It’s about time us women realise it’s okay to open up and do something about our sexual frustrations and sexual health.”

Lesley says she has been on some dates since lockdown lifted but tells the guys she meets she sells health and wellbeing products.

“Some might feel intimidated about my job and my love of vibrators. But if that is the case then they probably aren't the type of guy I want to be with.

“It’s why I won’t settle for second best in a relationship. Why should I when between the sheets I can do a better job myself?

“In 2021 there shouldn’t be a stigma around female sex toys. They produce mind blowing orgasms. What’s not to love?”

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