I'm a parenting coach & here’s why your child is having meltdowns after school and three easy ways to help them | The Sun

STARTING a new school can be both an exciting and daunting experience for any child.

But have you recently noticed that your child has started having a meltdown after school?


Well, no fear! According to a child psychotherapist, there's a perfectly valid explanation.

Hayley Rice took to TikTok and posted an informative video where she explains: "If your child has come home from school and had a meltdown, cry, scream, hit, or maybe got really defensive with you or be rude to you, it could be after-school restraint collapse."

The parenting coach continues: "They've spent the whole day trying to meet expectations and sit and be good.

"They've also had to navigate that day the ups and downs, the disappointments, the emotion without you. And they didn't have any control over that separation from you.

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"Sometimes on reunification with you they can become defensive and turn on you."

Hayley goes on to say that children also need an "outlet to release" after this day of kind of holding.

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Offering her first tip on what parents can do to help, Hayley says: "Lower your expectations of them and expect some regression of behaviour."

Moving onto her second piece of advice, she suggests: "Empathise and tune into them. Give them space and time to decompress."

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And finally, she recommends parents "hold your boundaries firmly and fairly about what's safe and what's not allowed."

Hayley captioned the post: "Parents, if your child comes home from school and the moods, meltdowns and tears start- here are 3 things for you to know."

The post has since garnered an impressive 55,000 views and been inundated with comments from parents across the country.

"My son had full on meltdowns last year after school, this year he is quiet and we just let him chill out without any expectations for an hour," wrote one.

A second penned: "I used to leave my daughter in front of TV, give snacks and leave them be – usually about 30 mins."

A third commented: "This is so helpful I thought I was on my own."

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Meanwhile, a fourth noted: "Yes! Most of last year which was his junior infants year. He did so well though in school. I find he is having some days like this again."

Another added: "Yes and he is so good at school , never gets into any trouble thanks for this video!"

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