Melissa Benoist Opens Up About Her Domestic Violence Survival Story

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Melissa Benoist is ready to share her story.

On Wednesday, the Supergirl actress took to Instagram to open up about her domestic violence survival story. “So I don’t normally do things like this but I’ve written something that I want to share, and I wanted it to stay my words and not have to edit it down for publishing,” she began her detailed and personal video. “I’m gonna read it out loud, and I’m quite nervous so bear with me.”

While the 31-year-old star didn’t name her abuser, she did share that he was her partner for quite some time and younger than her.

“I am a survivor of domestic violence or IPV (intimate partner violence), which is something I never in my life expected I would say, let alone be broadcasting into the ether,” she said, before describing her abuser. “He was a magnanimous person, who didn’t really give you a choice not to be drawn to him. He could be charming, funny, manipulative, devious.”

“He was younger than me, his maturity obvious,” she continued. “For a period of time, I wasn’t interested. I was newly single, gaining my bearing in a change in my life.”

She explained he made her “feel less alone” and “special” during that time, in which they bonded and became friends. However, the Glee alum said there was a shift once they started dating.

“It’s still hard for me to dissect what I was thinking and feeling that kept me from stopping what felt like a runaway freight train,” she expressed of her relationship. “It didn’t matter that I had misgivings, whether or not he was the one, at the time, it felt very good how much he coveted me. How much he seemed to treasure who I was. He loved me. I thought I loved him, and I was going to make it work.”

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The long and winding road of healing and reconciliation has brought me to this moment where I feel strong enough to talk about my experience openly, honestly and without shame. By sharing my story, hopefully I can empower others to seek help and extricate themselves from abusive relationships. Everyone deserves to be loved void of violence, fear and physical harm. @futureswithoutviolence

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The Supergirl actress explained there wasn’t violence at first. But she recalls him “snooping” on devices, making her change her clothes when they went out and him being controlling about her working with co-workers on certain jobs.

She said she began turning down job offers and test deals because her abuser didn’t want her doing scenes that were “flirtatious” or anything of the sort. Moreover, Benoist said she also “didn’t want to hurt him,” so she didn’t think much of those requests.

“None of that registered as abuse, because I was worried about how he felt at that point, to even comprehend how it even affected me,” she shared. “In retrospect, I see that each red flag followed a very clear path on things becoming violent.”

However, once things became physical, the 31-year-old star explained the violence happened so quickly, she “didn’t know how to respond.”

She detailed some of the abuse in her video, which may be triggering for those who continue reading.

“The stark truth is I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard the wind was knocked out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head butted, pinched until my skin broke, shoved into a wall so hard the drywall broke, choked,” she said. “I learned to lock myself in rooms but quickly stopped because the door was inevitably broken down. I learned to not value any of my property—replaceable and irreplaceable. I learned not to value myself.”

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She shared that this experience taught her what real love is and isn’t and the amount of strength she has within herself.

“Breaking that cycle was the most rewarding, empowering choice I’ve ever made for myself. I feel an enduring strength,” she said. “I will be healing from this for the rest of my life.” 

Furthermore, the Supergirl star took to Instagram with an additional post.

“The long and winding road of healing and reconciliation has brought me to this moment where I feel strong enough to talk about my experience openly, honestly and without shame,” her post read. “By sharing my story, hopefully I can empower others to seek help and extricate themselves from abusive relationships. Everyone deserves to be loved void of violence, fear and physical harm.”

Benoist is currently married to Supergirl co-star Chris Wood, whom she tied the knot with earlier this year. She was previously married to Blake Jenner, but in 2016, she filed for divorce. Their divorce was finalized in 2017.

For more information on domestic abuse or to get help for yourself or someone you love, visit the website for The National Domestic Violence Hotline (http://www.thehotline.org/) or call 1-800-799-7233.

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