My father-in-law called me the N-word after I didn't invite him for dinner — I can't take his racial slurs any longer

DEAR DEIDRE: MY father-in-law called me the N-word. I’m a black African woman and I can’t take his racial slurs any longer.

My in-laws live two doors from us and my husband is very close to them.


We are both 32. My father-in-law is 64.

Before Christmas we argued after I didn’t invite them over for a roast. He yelled the N-word and said my husband would be better off without me.

My husband told him to “shut-up” and I stormed off, but later my husband said I was overreacting.

He excuses his dad’s racism as “old-fashioned attitudes”. I said I wanted to leave him because it’s not the first time his dad’s been racist towards me.

I’m still with him, but the whole family situation is toxic.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband must speak with his father and insist that neither of you will tolerate his racism.

If he refuses to apologise or change, then there is no reason for you to have anything more to do with him. If your husband wants to still see his parents, that’s his call.

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